“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” - William Shakespeare
Self-doubt can be a troubling and persuasive voice that holds you back.
It holds you back from seizing your opportunities.
It makes getting started or finishing things harder than they need to be.
Sometimes, it can sometimes be useful as it helps you to soberly see your current limitations or simply recognise a half-baked or bad idea. But mostly, it holds you back in life.
So how can you get around that, how can you overcome those times of self-doubt so that you can move forward once again?
First, when your inner doubts bubble up, be quick - stop and rethink.
Don’t let them spin out of control or grow from a whisper to a stream of discouraging sentences. Instead, talk back to that doubtful part of yourself.
By doing so you can disrupt the thought pattern and stop that inner self-doubter from taking over.
2. Look to the past and awash yourself in the memories.
Be real with yourself and ask yourself; "How many times when I doubted myself or feared something would happen did that negative thing come into reality after I still took action?"
Self-doubts are most often just monsters in your head that your mind may use to keep you from making changes and to keep you within the comfort zone.
If you look to the past and see how well things have gone many times despite those self-doubts then it become easier to let go of them or to ignore them and to focus on the more likely positive outcome and to take action.
3. Talk to someone about it.
When you keep your thoughts on the inside they can become distorted, exaggerated and not very much in line with reality or reasonable expectations.
This is very much true when it comes to self-doubting thoughts.
So, let them out into the light.
Talk to someone close to you about your self-doubts.
Just letting them out and saying them out loud can often help you to hear how exaggerated these thoughts have become.
And by talking about those doubts with someone that is supportive you can get a change in perspective.
4. Start keeping a journal.
Keeping a journal can be a helpful habit for many reasons. When it comes to self-doubts it can help you to; keep a realistic record of your life and gain clarity more easily.
5. Get a boost of optimism.
Let someone else's enthusiasm, motivation and constructive optimism flow over to you.
6. See a setback as temporary.
When you have a setback then you may start to see things through a negative and dark lens. You might see this current setback as something that will simply be your new normal.
8. Don't beat yourself up about it.
A common way to handle self-doubt is to get angry at yourself and your lack of motion.
Don’t. How does beating yourself up about a situation help? Take action. and learn from any mistakes. What can you do differently next time? What would work better?
From experience, self-doubt is counter productive. It swallows you up, devours you, and fills you with dread.
Fill your world with positive attributions and surround ourself with making positive choices .. fo you... and if you’re not sure on what those positive choices are ... take your time...breathe..
Take that stroll through the woods, allow the sun to breathe into your pores and take some reflection time.
Most importantly lean on others, if you can talk about it and ’show these thoughts’ to the world.
You’ll be surprised what you’ll discover.
Peace and Love to You All,